If you are going through a divorce, this can bring up a wide array of emotions and might make you act in ways you aren't proud of. While divorce proceedings can be tedious, it is important to balance the line of protecting your rights and not being selfish because you are hurt. Here are three disputes you might be better off letting go of when going through a divorce.
1. Let Go of Being Angry
Don't draw out your divorce because you want to punish your ex by proving them wrong in the process. This can waste time, court fees, and payments to lawyers. By not agreeing to initial settlements that might actually be fair, a judge might not actually end up reaching an outcome you are happy with in the end. Your divorce attorney can help you with advice when it comes to holding out on otherwise fair settlements just because you are angry.
2. Let Go of Fighting for Full Custody
Unless there is a very valid reason that you should be warranted full custody of your children, finding an agreement for shared custody will be more customary and easier to agree on. If you sincerely think it would be harmful for your children to have unsupervised time with your ex-spouse, that is one thing. If you are just trying to hurt your ex, there will be little grounds for unfounded claims of full custody needs. Your divorce attorney can help look at your scenario and help decide if you truly have a case for full custody, or if you might be going too extreme of a route.
3. Let Go of Wanting a Large Alimony Settlement
If you try to fight your ex tooth and nail for a financial settlement that might be too extreme, this will draw out your divorce process. It is important to sit down with your attorney and work up a plan that is fair and will protect you for the future. Other than that, there is no reason to try to fight for more than you are owed in the long run. When your ex-spouse refuses to agree to your extreme requests, this will land your case in court. This might not get you any further than initial settlement offers, and possibly leave you with less.
Working with your divorce attorney can help you get a handle on what fights to let go. Your lawyer will be able to provide an expert outside opinion on your situation. At the end of the day, some disputes might be too costly or will delay the divorce process, and just aren't worth it in the end.